husband's wandering love, have recourse to the attempt to arouse his jealousy; but they are muck mistaken in pursuing such a method. A man, however debased may be his conduct, never entirely forgets the love he once bore to the bride of his youth; there are moments when feelings of tenderness for her will return with force to his heart, and to reap the benefit of such moments, the injured but forgiving wife must still be enshrined in the purity of former times. A husband will excuse his fault to himself, and in some measure also stand exonerated to the world, if his wife relax in the propriety of her conduct; while, on the contrary, the gentle forbearance, the uncomplaining patience, and unobtrusive rectitude of the woman he injures, will deeply strike his heart, and do much to win him back to his former love, and to the observance of the vows he breathed at the altar, when his heart was devoted to the being from whom it has wandered. A kind look, an affectionate expression half uttered, must bring his wife to his side, and she must with smiles and tenderness encourage the returning affection, carefully avoiding all reference to her sufferings, or the cause of them.".

While addressing these remarks upon jealousy, more particularly to wives, I must not forget that husbands are guilty of the same fault, and that their heedless and inconsiderate conduct is too ofen the cause of jealousy in their wives. guage of Cobbett is directly to this point.

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ing of jealousy, he remarks-" One thing, however, every husband can do in the way of prevention, [of jealousy on the part of the wife,] and that is, to give no ground for it. And here it is not sufficient that he strictly adhere to his marriage vow; he ought further to abstain from every act, however free from guilt, calculated to awaken the slightest degree of suspicion in a mind, the peace of which he is bound by every tie of justice and humanity not to disturb, or, if he can avoid it, to suffer it to be disturbed by others. A woman that is very fond of her husband, and this is the case with nine tenths of the English and American women, does not like to share with another any, even the smallest portion, not only of his affection, but of his assiduities and applause; and, as the bestowing of them on one another, and receiving payment in kind, can serve no purpose other than of gratifying one's vanity, they ought to be abstained from, and especially if the gratification be to be purchased with even the chance of exciting uneasiness in her, whom it is your sacred duty to make as happy as you can. For about two or three years after I was married, I, retaining something of my military manners, used, both in France and America, to romp most famously with all the girls that came in my way, till one day, at Philadelphia, my wife said to me, in a very gentle manner. "Don't do that: I do not like it.' That was quite enough I had never thought upon the subject before. One hair of her head was more dear to me

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than all the other women in the world, and this I knew that she knew; but I now saw that this was not all that she had a right to from me. I saw that she had the further claim upon me that I should abstain from everything that might induce others to believe that there was any other woman for whom, even if I were at liberty, I had any affection. I beseech young married men to bear this in mind; for on some trifle of this sort, the happiness or misery of a long life frequently If the mind of a wife be disturbed on this score, every possible means ought to be used to restore it to peace. And though her suspicions be perfectly groundless-though they be wild as the dreams of madmen-though they may present a mixture of the furious and the ridiculous-still they are to be treated with the greatest lenity and tenderness; and if, after all, you fail, the frailty is to be lamented as a misfortune, and not punished as a fault, seeing that it must have its foundation in a feeling towards you, which it would be the basest of ingratitude, and the most ferocious of cruelty, to repay by harshness of any description."

To sum up the whole of these remarks on the conduct of wives towards their husbands, I must use the language of another: "An affectionate wife will cling to her husband through good report and evil report; through poverty and richesand the more the world recedes from him, the more firmly will she stand by him; she will be his comforter, when all other worldly comfort has

slid from him, her devotedness will be his rock when he has no other support; she will smile at the frowns of the world-she will not heed its censures; he is her all, and in her love are all other blessings forgotten or absorbed. No sacrifice will be too great; the faintest smile will not be a reward too little."

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CHAPTER V.

GENERAL DEPORTMENT.

"A virtuous woman is man's greatest pride."

lr is a happy consideration, that, as a general rule, woman is more particular in her conduct, and more correct in her deportment and manners, than man. The native modesty of her nature, and the finer susceptibility of her feelings, restrain her from that roughness and carelessness of demeanor which is so frequently seen in "the lords of creation." But still woman is liable to err in this respect, much to the injury of her happiness and the happiness of those connected with her.

It evidently is as necessary and important that married ladies should observe rules of deportment as strict as those who are unmarried. Matrimony has undoubtedly wrought many striking changes in their situation and circumstances, but it should effect no change whatever in their deportment, in the modesty of their conduct, or the purity of their language. Their demeanor should ever be of that delicate character that a stranger cannot determine by their actions, or their conversation, whether they are married or single. There is nothing that